Well, don’t ever think that you can be smarter than your brain. It will get you in ways that you have never thought possible before. I had to learn this the hard way with my ROCD. But once I knew how the trick was done I wasn’t fooled again (at least as easily!).
See this video and realise how un-awesome it is at the end. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YN0I-TZFn58
Our brain has its own tricks for survival and functioning. The problem is when these same tricks are the cause of much wrong doing in ROCD. From my experience the most common ones are:
I call this the sleight of hand of the brain in ROCD. Those who are familiar with the English language know what the expression sleight of hand means. For those who aren’t here is the wikipedia link. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleight_of_hand
Association starts with the expectation of wanting to feel/think or not feel/think a certain way. For example, the boyfriend or girlfriend is away for awhile and we do not miss him much for some reason. If that happens it is because we do not have real feelings for that person. Can you see the sleight of hand here of association? We might have been very busy, tired or we just not are the missing type very much. But the brain went and decided that that association is true. And from what I have seen in OCD not just ROCD, it tends to go and pick the worst case scenario. The other classic one is I feel anxiety when I am with the other person then if this was right I would not be feeling this way.
Exclusion is another funny one. Once we make our minds about something the brain goes and looks for an exclusion to the rule. Ufff, I finally found out that I have ROCD. Once you achieve that “certainty” your brain starts to think about the exception. “Maybe it isn’t true because this and this happened or I feel this and that way” and there it goes 3.5 hours of thinking down the drain.
Addiction, this one is less obvious. But simple to explain. The more we think about something the more we want to think about it. It is very true with ROCD and it creates almost an addiction to trying to find the answers or evidence to our questions. The fact that we engage in problem solving with our brain is almost a release from stress. Only to find out something that we do not want to find out with our questioning. YOUR BRAIN WANTS YOU TO KEEP LOOKING FOR AN ANSWER. Then we start all over again. Oh, and another extension of this is being obsessed about our symptoms and talking endlessly about them. More about this in the next post.
Here is an exercise for you. Can you think about how you are falling prey to any of these brain tricks by your ROCD?