One thing that Hollywood does not teach us is that true love is a choice. Feelings come and go. It is a biological thing. Not a bad thing but we should not expect feelings to be there 24/7. One of my favourite quotes is “Choose your love and love your choice”. Reflect on this statement for a while.
We can’t choose how to feel as this is a biological process.Infatuation and physical attraction is the result of biology.But we can choose when, whom and how to love. This is a choice. It took me a long time to even understand and realise this. We are taught and trained that physical attraction or infatuation = love. This is the result of our society and media.
Think about the following question for a minute or two: “How can I really love someone if I don’t know them? ”
If we think that the “perfect” relationship is feeling good or infatuated about the other person all the time, no relationship is going to be good enough.
There is no magic bullet. Take it slow and take the brain out of overdrive…this is when you will start moving forward. Hope this makes sense.
OK, now for another interesting exercise. Listen to the following song lyrics and try to figure out if this is true love or infatuation. Leave your comments below.
Whitesnake ” Is this love”
You can find the lyrics here: