One of the questions that I am asked the most in one way or the other is “How long until I start to feel love again?”. This is a very difficult question to answer for several reasons.
1- Reassurance seeking. It is a way of looking for reassurance and there needs to be a very fine balance between staying positive and looking for reassurances. This is something that is very personal. Reassurances are not very good in any type of OCD as they “feed” the mental compulsions and the “what if’s”.
2-Every person is different. There are no standards in love and when it comes to feelings. We feel things differently. We love differently. We think things differently.
3-Thinking illogically. Think about this example. You have just broken your leg in a car accident. You have not been given any treatment or the right treatment. The first question you ask is “when can I run a marathon?” How logic is this? Maybe a better question to ask is “what can I do to stop feeling pain in my leg” and then “what can I do to stand on my leg?” and maybe after “what can I do to start taking small steps?”
OK, here is a challenge. Read this page and think how this might apply to rOCD and length of recovery. You can write your comments below!