today I have been thinking about “if I could share just one thing with a fellow rOCD sufferer, what would that be?” The single most useful piece of advice that I could give someone would be ” It’s not about finding a solution in your brain but about daily effort” . At one point, during my worst rOCD period, I realised that I was stuck in trying to find answers in my brain. When I thought I had something completely figured out, literally a few seconds later the thought “what if” would pop-out and completely burst my moment of enlightenment. This was definitely not “normal”. My brain was fighting against me. This was when I realised that there was something “wrong” with me. I slowly stopped trying to find answers in my brain and focused in trying to find answers in my actions. I looked for professional help. Learned more about anxiety and OCD. Started practicing mindfulness, etc.
This was my “aha” moment. I had many small “aha” moments that enabled me to move from a problem focused mindset to a solution focused mindset. Ask yourself the honest question : “how long have I been trying to find solutions in my brain with no apparent resolution in sight?” I know that when we start “brain digging”, for some reason, this brings some sort of comfort and calms us down. However, this is definitely not a way forward. The way forward is in our daily routines.
A lot of people are stuck in their rOCD journey because they cannot commit to a daily process of change and are looking for a “magical” transformation. I know this very well because I was such a person for a very long time.
I challenge everyone out there, for the space of a week, to mindfully engage and dis-engage with their rOCD thoughts. It will be almost impossible not to get slightly less unstuck.